Spring Was Never Just a Season for Me

On forests, nervous systems, and why spring feels like ‘life returning’

There is a strong reason why spring, to me at least feels very emotional.
Not just because the sun shines longer; thus making the days lighter, and the apparant beauty visible longer. But it also seems to have a positive effect on my emotions.
Almost as if something inside my body begins waking up again, alongside the earth.

And I do not think that feeling is imaginary.

In Scandinavia, Spring especially has historically meant far more than just warmer weather. After long winters of darkness, isolation, cold and the need to survive, spring represented the light, warmth and follow up movement returning to the world, where people were once again ‘safe’ until the next wintertime.

During the spring, the ground softened. People began to gather again, and the animals reappeared with the forest accesibility.

And for thousands of years, human nervous systems adapted themselves around nature’s mechanisms.

Personally, I think about this often when I walk in the old forest behind my parents house.
The forest stretches all the way from our area to my old elementary school and beyond – ancient enough that parts of it likely existed during the viking age.

When I was a child, I used to sit there alone during school breaks. At the time I was stressed, heavily bullied and very overwhelmed.

So, instead of forcing myself into unkind, noisy social spaces, I just dissapeared into the trees. And became «The girl who talkes to trees».

And even then – before I understood disability, nervous systems, or stress regulation – my body was already aware of something important:
The forest calmed me down.
– The smell of wet earth.
– The calm movement of leaves.
– The filtered light through the branches.
– Birdsong in the sky
– And the quiet repetition of nature.

It all softened something inside me.

And now, years later ,science increasingly confirms what humans have probably, instinctively known for centuries:

Nature regulates us.

Modern research increasingly supports this instinctive human relationship with nature. As an example, studies on Shirin-yoku – the Japanese practice often translated to «forest bathing», have repeatedly shown reductions in cortisol (the body’s primary stress hormone), anxiety, blood-pressure, and nervous-system overload, after time spent in forest environments. (Sage Journals/ PubMed).

One 2019 systematic review and meta-analysis examining multiple forest-bathing studies found significantly lower cortisol levels in people exposed to forest environments compared to those mainly exposed to urban ones (PubMed).

And honestly, I do not find that surprising at all.
Because the human nevrous system was never built entirely for concrete notifications, fluorecent lights and endless urgency.

Instead, for most of human history – especially in Northern Europe – forests were a sense of safetey, shelter, medicine, sprirituality and survival ability

Furthermore, these studies on forest exposure even attribute that short exposure to green spaces can positively affect mood and cognitive recovery.
This research suggests that even short exposure to green environments can improve mood, reduce mental fatigue, and help regulate overstimulation – sometimes only within a few minutes of sensory exposure to nature (PubMed).

And to be honest, I think disabled people often feel this especially strong. Because, when your body is already overstimulated, exhausted, inflamed or neurologically overwhelmed, nature does not demand a performance from you.

A forest day does not care how productive you are.
Or how social you are. Or how much energy you have that day.
It simply allows you to exist.

Image by: Silje Elsrud Yttervik

«And into the forest I go, to lose my mind
and find my soul.»
– John Muir

Spring and the disabled nervous system

As was my own situation, I think that Spring can often become a kind of nervous-system reset for many disabled people. Not nesessarily in these dramatic «new beginnings» kind of way that social media often presents, but rather in the forms of «spring healing», one small step at the time.

Things like Opening a window early morning to hear the birdsong in the wind, standing in the sunlight for a few minutes. Walking slowly throughouth the day instead of constantly being efficient. Or just sitting quietly beside a tree, letting your shoulders unclench.

Perhaps these small things matter more than we think.
Because, disabled people often spend enormous amounts of time surviving in the world:
– endless appointments
– varying daily symptoms
– overstimulation and pain
– Daily masking
– Constant future uncertainty

So, spring quietly reminds the body that survival is not the only state available to us.

Historically, humans belonged to the seasons

Modern life often treats humans as seperate from nature. But historically, especially in Norther Europe, as mentioned before, seasonal rhytmic events shaped nearly everything; still do to some extend.
But earlier, this applied to nearly everything:
– Food
– Sleep
– Work
– Celebration
– Religion
– Movement
– Community

Even many Christian spring traditions in Scandinavia carry traces of older pagan seasonal rituals underneath them; fertility, symbols, grenery, fire, cleansing, sunlight and renewal. |

And maybe part of why spring affects us so deeply is because our bodies still remember those rhytms, even within modern systems.
Especially bodies that are already sensitive to change.

Disabled joy in spring

I also think that disabled joy can look very different during springtime.
Instead of social-media adapted dramatic adventures, sometimes they can be as simple as having enough energy to picnic outside in the sun, the smell of heavy rain on newly cut grass, opening a balcony/ garden door or window for fresh air – or simply realizing your nervous system feels slightly easier to control than it did two months ago.

«Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.»
– Ralp Waldo Emerson

And while simple, I still think this counts as joyful.
Because, many of us are forced into different bodily rhytms long before we are emotionally ready for them.

Thus, perhaps what is actually happening is that springtime gently reminds us that our slower pace is not a failure in life, but a form of nature-led pace that is both peaceful and easy to commit to.

Tiny things matter!

A few gentle spring rituals

These are not productivity or self improvement projects, just a form of nervouss system kindness towards ourselves and our bodies:
– Open a window for five minutes in the spring morning
– Sit outside withouth the need to ‘do’ anything.
– Touch Moss, bark, leaves or grass intentionally
– Listen to birds instead of music once a day
– Let sunlight hit your face before you open screens (remember SPF!)
– Take a slow morning routine somewhere, if possible
– Allow yourself to notice the beauty of nature

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A small task for you, reader…

This week, try to spend a few quiet minutes somewhere natural – even if its only a garden or a park bench, or even just an open window.

And ask yourself:

«What happens in my body when I stop trying to move faster than nature does?»

You do not have to bloom all at once
No part of nature ever does.

– Silje


The Myth of the Wall: What Menopause Reveals about Power

«They tell women they reach a wall at 30. That somehow, beauty fades, fertility wanes and the world will stop listening; stop caring. But nature laugs at such a story – because, nature never built a wall. She built a gate».
– Silje Elsrud Yttervik

Much like many women of my generation, reaching the age of 30 seemed like such a fuzz. Apparantly; according to the social norms of ‘chronically-online-wannabe-gods’, women at the age of 30 is supposed to feel some sort of terrible way – and then just roll over and die. But, we all know that doesn’t happen. Instead, many women feel better, look prettier and and have generally better, healthier lives than they ever did during their 20s. I certainly know I do! And those who don’t – most often than not spent their entire teenage-/ very early adult stage, tied to some kind of man they now recognize as a master manipulator, beginning their 30’s with 2-3 kids they’re caring for all by themselves, while doing all housework and paying 50% of the bills. And, well – if that is your life, there’s no wonder you feel tired!

Regardless; the general construct seem to be that women over 30 hit «the wall». A form of ‘something’ that from one day to the next changes everything about her. Personally, I find it a bit funny. Because, once again – according to this wall, women are no longer beautiful, no longer fertile and always sad and bitter. And, there’s nothing realistic about this. Some of the most beautiful women out there (for anyone not litterally ‘pdf-files‘) are in their 40’s; when people feel free and authentic enough to be themselves. Some women have children as far as in their mid-to-late 40’s, so the fertility-aspect is not true either. And, lastly – it takes alot of time and effort to make groups of smiling, laughing women in their menopausal stage seem sad and bitter. The fact that certain people actually do that, should be enough to illustrate how little truth there is to it.

So, then what is the wall?

Well, the latest, general consensus amongst neurologists seem to be that human brains are only fully developed sometime between the age of 27-30. For young women, that is the age she becomes anchored in who she is, becomes less naive and more mature – and with it, much less difficult to manipulate.

So, when (especially) older, supposedly mature men, scream and shout that I should roll over and die, as I don’t have kids anyone can put on me, and I have no value beyond reproducing, I tend to find their talking points very – odd.

Because, If women actually were made just to reproduce, nature would make sure we could reproduce all our lives, kind off like men can. But, when a women reaches menopause, she (most often) has only lived half of her life. Or to put it another way:

«If women were meant only to bear children, nature wouldn’t have made them live half their lives beyond it».
– Silje Elsrud Yttervik

Men on the other hand is a different story. If they stay healthy, men can tecnically reproduce their entire life; a little boy is born – he gets to teenage age when he (biologically) can reproduce, gets older and older (while able to reproduce), then he dies. So if any sex is tecnically made only to reproduce other humans, it’s the menz…

Unfortionately, this double standard is intentional, and has through centuries-old attempts at changing nature, been baked intoo the design of society.

Biology speaks Truth
Within the animal realm , only a very few species experience female menopause; humans, some toothed whales (orchas, pilot whales) and elephants. In these species, females live long past their fertile years, often becoming central leading figures – as wise, powerful and very needed in their pack.

This is best explained by a concept many evolutionary Biologists and Anthropologists refer to as the Grandmother Hypothesis; which shows how post-reproductive women contribute significantly to the survival of descendants. Their presence alone improves child-rearing success, resource sharing, and transmission of wisdom.

One study with pre-industrial Finns found that women beyond reproductive age who helped raise grandchildren had better overall «fitness»trajectories for their lineage – suggesting that menopause is not a «defect» but rather an adaptive trait manily issued to women.

Based on this fact, is seems likely that nature designed these females in a much more generous way than what society seems to think. After all, she was designed to bear children, nurture them – and then lead society forward- for as long as life allows.

Patriarchy and its Backfire
One thing I find immensely Interestingly, is that out of the three animal species that experience female menopause, two out of the three have matriarchal societies. And the one that does not, have instead fought tooth-and-nail for centuries to prove that the patriarcal way is instead the natural way – and doing a very poor job at it!

https://powerculturecoco.substack.com/p/what-is-matriarchy
Image by: Substack @PowerCultureCoco

The problem with human societies is that the patriarchy eats itself. Every time it silences a woman; a weaker less important part of the patriarchal-pyramid (according to itself), it also weakens the structure that holds it.

Furthermore, from a sociological lens, when highly-patriarchal laws are put in place, it leads to societies that prefer male children over females ones, creating laws that result in parents (litterally) killing their newborn baby-girls, hoping for a male one next. Such patriarchal talking points are another example of how short-sighted the patriarchy really is. Because, low and behold; these very same countries are now left with societies with up to 50 million more men than women;
men who are mad they can’t find a wife. Men who are mad and highly violent because they can’t regulate their emotions through sexual acts with women. And men who blame women for not wanting to date them; not taking intoo account that if (litterally) every woman in the country had a man, 50 million men would still be withouth a woman.

The true irony here is that the more these patriarchs tries to hord control over social assets and the people they belong too, the more they destabilize their own system.

The Psychological & Emotional Reflection
Many men seem angry when women over 30 refuse to be silenced or manipulated. They call us ‘past our value’ as though value has an expiration date stamped in (often) pre-teen-youth. They either don’t see that women as they age carry more perspective, more resilience and more ability to name injustice. Or, they see it and fear it, knowing that they themselves were planning on being the reason for said injustice.

Because, the wall they speak of isn’t real. It’s a ghost story used to keep power. All women have to do is to reclaim the «crone»-achetype; not as a symbol of decay, but rather as a sign of mastery, female wisdom and peace. She is someone who cannot be controlled by sex, fertility or validation. And when women cross that imaginary barrier – when they refuse to shrink, refuse to become invisible — they walk into a space of truth.
There is nothing to apologize for in growing older. I mean – congratulations!
We’re not dead yet!

“The wise woman isn’t bitter; she’s just free. And freedom looks dangerous to those who’ve only ever known control.”
– Silje Elsrud Yttervik


Authorities, Thinkers and Books to Ground You

  • Riane Eisler, The Chalice and the Blade. She writes about the tension between “dominator” (patriarchal) models and partner/partnership models of society.
  • Evelyn Reed, Woman’s Evolution: From Matriarchal Clan to Patriarchal Family. Looks at early human social systems that were matrilineal before the rise of the patriarchal family.
  • Scholarly article: “Evolutionary, Developmental, and Comparative Perspectives on Menopause” — considers how humans and certain animals evolved life beyond reproductive age.

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The Matriarch Returns

Image by: Philbo UA @ Unsplash

Despite a ton of patriarchs trying to frame it that way, Matriarchal societies is not about women ruling over men – it’s about balance. About remembering that the center of life was never meant to be domination, but care. Antropological research clearly shows that societies with more balanced gender roles, also create societies with less violence, higher social stability – and (generally) better lives for everyone; big or small, old or young.
The metaphorical wall they built for women is only a mirage.
And beyond it lies a throne.

A Task for you
Write a letter to your future self (5 or 10 years from now). Describe your power, your wisdom, your beauty. Then read it back. Let that future self know that you see them, and choose them, just as they are.

– Silje

Ecotherapy practices: how Nature can heal your mind

Sometimes, the most productive thing that you can do is to step outside and do nothing… relax and enjoy nature.
– Melanie Charlene

During the last few years, my doctor and I have been working hard to get me in touch with a government-funded theraphist. This has however, proven to be considerably more difficult than what I originally though it would. Current day community theraphists are (most of the time) allready fully booked with patients. And, in the event that someone were to get a session with any of them, the client would have to be suicidal – or dead.

Some people end up cutting through the queue all together, by paying theraphists in private organizations. I do not not have the funds for this at current, especially as my wish for theraphy is ‘only’ to have an unbiased person to talk to, when my head gets too filled with neurotic and scarcity thoughs – thoughts that I do not wish to dump on friends or family when in high stress situations.

So I figured, If I can’t actually afford talking to a private theraphist, and I have too high self-preservation to be considered ‘sick-enough’ to get community- theraphy, what else could I do, that might give me a better mental outcome?

This is where Ecotherapy comes in. As I’ve mentioned in a previous post, I’ve always felt closely connected to the nature around me, and the serenity she might bring. One of the ways to hone in on that, is through various (therapeutic) treatments and activities in nature. There isn’t one single definition of ecotherapy, but it’s often used to describe a regular, structured activity. Said activity may or may not be led by a trained professional, where the focus is on doing certain activities rather than the current state of your health. These activities, such as meditation, creative-theraphy, yoga or other forms of exersize, mindfulness-training or horticulture are done out in nature or near water. As such, the focus of Echotheraphy is related to the exploration and appreciation of the natural world – and can be done with or withouth other people.

For me, a type of self-lead ecotheraphy treatment, is walking through and around the forrest behind my house. I touch the trees, smell the leaves, pick and eat the wild berries. I bring eatable mushrooms home with me, meditate, and at times, meet one of the forrests four-legged wild residents. Afterwards I feel considerably calmer, happier and less stressed.

This is not withouth reason. According to a study by PhD Fellow Yoshifumi Miyazaki at Chiba University, things such as ‘forest bathing’ and walking in the woods, can significantly lower your cortisol as well as your blood-pressure. Additionally, it has the potential to boost your body’s natural immune system, by (amongst other things) increasing the body’s anti-cancer proteins. (Science of Natural Therapy, by Yoshifumi Miyazaki , Center for Environment, Health and Field Sciences. Chiba University

As a form of care, echotheraphy can take place both in cities as well as on the countryside. Settings include gardens, parks, farms and woodlands – and involved a varying amount of physical activity. Some places have echotheraphy programs alongside other health- treatments; such as theraphy, art and creativity programs, or phychiatric medication. It is often a very positive element in connecting with others, particularly for those who’s socially anxious, as you have a task to do together.

There are several types of echotheraphy-programs that exist out there, all with different sets of intentions; adventure-theraphy, like rafting, caving or rock-climbing takes focus of the adventurist-elements (or lack thereof) of many people. Such programs focus on doing a variety of physical activities in a group. Certain programs of echotheraphy includes the involvements of animals on farms, where you pet, feed or create therapeutic relations to certain animals (like horses or dogs) and even grow crops or help manage the woodland. Blue exersize includes various form of training near water (such as swimming), green exersize is – similar to blue, certain workout sessions in the middle of the woords or parks (such as running or cycling). Certain forms of echotheraphy, like the conservation of environmental areas, arts and crafts based on nature or horticulture, takes the form of conserving natural environment, creating ats by using environments found in nature – or horticulture; gardening, growing food, or spending time around flowers or plants.

If however you can’t find any echotheraphy program in you area, you could talk to health-related professionals whether they would be interested in starting one, look for nature-based groups or classes: such as walking groups or community gardens, etc.

I do ecotherapy to get sunlight onto my skin and into my mind. Surrounded by the fresh forest air, with sunbeams peaking through the tall tree-tops, I came to realize that standardized theraphy is unessessary; that I have everything I need right here.

Inspired by: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/talking-therapy-and-counselling/ecotherapy/